As a parent, you would be happy to see your kids grow healthy with all-round development – academic, social and intellectual. You would be shocked to know that your son/daughter is involved in an activity that could risk life and social esteem, besides the financial burden it brings in its wake.
However if you are not sure about the unpleasant news of your kid taking drugs or alcohol, how would you proceed? The issue is too serious to ignore. Nor can you start discussing the issue with your kid that might make him feel that his personal freedom is being shackled. The following steps can be helpful:
Communication plays a major role
Parents play significant role in shaping the social behavior of kids. A cordial relationship helps in building a positive attitude in youngsters. Besides, positive support at appropriate time would go a long way to aid in building a healthy attitude towards self as well as others. Converse with your kids openly, regarding things ranging from academics to a valedictory party or so. Let your son/daughter discuss everything frankly with you. Develop an influential and not coercive relationship to answer any query you make. Watch out for any change in social behavior, for instance, avoiding your company, staying alone for long hours, uncontrollable emotions like anger that is unusual, failure to complete home assignment, sudden drop in academic performance – all this might point to something going amiss and hence requires urgent attention.
Convince him for a drug test
Once you find strong factors leading to your suspicion of your kid’s drug/alcoholic abuse, the next step you take is, obviously a drug test. Be cautious, as it might embitter the parent-kid relationship as the kids, because of their very age, might feel that their privacy is being infringed, especially if the relation is not so close. Convince that what he consumes is harmful to his health. Once your kid knows that you are aware of the problem, ask him to take a drug test.
Teaching kids family values is important from the point of view of social relations and code of personal conduct. Parents play central role in instilling moral values of compassion, empathy, being helpful to others and the like – in shaping the social behavior of kids. Extend your moral support whenever your kid fails to perform on one count. Explain to him/her what exactly went wrong and advise him the ways to avoid past pitfalls. Avoid passing negative comments that might lead to feeling of low esteem.
Point out the risks of drug use
Pointing out the risks associated with drug abuse can help him stay away from drugs. Keeping a close and healthy relationship and thus nurturing the relationship is very important. You should personally and enthusiastically urge your kid not to take drugs/alcohol. Let non-addict peer of your son see him. He could stand as good example to convince your kid regarding the benefits of staying away from drugs or alcohol.
Substance abuse has become all-pervading cutting across different sections of the society. It is extremely important to note that parents are responsible for the wrong behavior of their kids. The teenage years are the most constructive and reformative years. Adolescents must not be left without their parents’ restraint as ‘charity begins at home’.